Describe a risk you took that you do not regret.

I finally confronted the psychopath next door today & in true fashion tried to gaslight me by calling me *crazy* that’s what abusers do to take heat off themselves.

I have evidence that he entered our house with his own key for over 2 years. As if it’s not enough that he masturbates when I shower. Something I find disgusting.

He & several other neighbors entered our house & doctored my shampoo so my hair would fall out. I still have every one of those bottles hidden in our house. I discovered it when I showered 2 years ago & all of a sudden my hair came out in clumps. It wasn’t stress or COVID but lye that he & his accomplices had put into my $25 a bottle shampoo.

He also orchestrated harassment by at least 10 people on our street to come up & attempt to break in between the hours of 2-5 am year round. Real immature & it had his name all over it.

Today he cut down parts of trees that are essentially ours. Without permission & I can tell you that if the remaining part of trees dies he will owe us  compensation. I’m documenting his obviously bad chopping skills tomorrow with my phone. Video with narration & pictures.

Do I care that he called me *crazy* nope. That’s what abusive psychopaths do. Deferment by trying to shift blame back to the person they’ve victimized. Unfortunately I no longer lie down & play the victim I just document & document. As I see now I’ll clearly need it.

Describe a decision you made in the past that helped you learn or grow.

Over 20 years ago, I had a fling with a really toxic guy. He accused me of cheating on him with my then roommate. He was a cracker programmer who dumped porno files in my laptop After the relationship had ended.

During the brief relationship he was controlling & abusive. That he would mask by saying he was “concerned.” However, he kept me away from my friends & my roommate & barely gave me room to breathe outside of the “relationship.” I recall going back to my apartment to check in with my roommate & he yelled at me for calling my mom back who had grown worried.

What the brief toxic relationship taught me is that love is not what that was. Love is trusting, open & honest. Not what that relationship was. If you see red flags don’t ignore them but get out ASAP.

What book could you read over and over again?

Carl Hiassen, is a comedic writer that writes really funny books. I could read his stuff all day!

Anything by Valerie Perrin, she’s great at writing about being young & not so bright.

Zadie Smith, a British writer with the flair for showing the darker sides of society. But her writing is spot on.

I’m a huge fan of reading diverse writers from all types of backgrounds. My favorite book is “A Town Called Alice” a book set in Australia during WWII in Alice Springs, a place I finally got to visit in 2015!

I’m free writing this so when I think about a book pops up in my head I write it down. Thanks for reading, I know it’s been a while since I’ve written!