What’s a topic or issue about which you’ve changed your mind?

Your view changes. I lost a baby over a decade ago & I could do nothing about it. I was devastated afterwards & it lasted months. Losing a child is much harder than it seems like & I wasn’t given a choice because of the circumstances.

I still think women should have a choice that hasn’t changed. But the emotional toll it took on me afterwards I couldn’t have foreseen. Because losing a child is so frowned upon & the emotional toll that it takes is something my doctor never told me. So I became afraid of getting pregnant again until it was too late. Being afraid to carry a child is devastating. Hence, I didn’t become pregnant again after losing that baby. I’ve always been strong but the loss of that baby changed something in me. I dreamt of being a mother for years & then it was Gone over night. I feel that you’ve no right to judge another woman’s choice.

What’s your all-time favorite album?

I think that there’s plenty of music that’s good. However, my all time favorite album is tough.

“Achtung Baby” by U2 not the remixed stuff on Spotify but the original album.

“Yummy” by James, it’s a relatively new album but the writing is excellent as is the music.

“Rush of blood to the head” Coldplay. It came out 20 years ago but is dark & moody. Really good.

“Closer to Fine” Indigo Girls. Came out in the 1990’s & is one of my favorite albums of all time.

I think this is a good mix of what I like to listen to. Who can you listen to over & over again?

Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

I wish I had learned this earlier than 2 years ago. When someone I had counted on was nowhere to be found.

I have had to learn that when people push you out of their lives it has more to do with them than with you. I was going through some pretty nightmarish crap & this person just turned & walked away. The person I thought would leave actually stayed & we’ve grown close & the person I thought I was close to chose to leave.

A true friend will pull up a chair & support you no matter what. Whereas someone who begins to push you away no longer cares & neither should you.

Your mental well being comes first & if they try to make you feel unsafe or mock your experience they’re not your friend. I had to learn this the hard way but I’m grateful for the people that have stuck by my side no matter what. They’re the ones that matter not the people that walked out of your life. Period.