What principles define how you live?

I wholeheartedly believe in kindness & karma. I believe in the principles that kindness even towards those you may not like goes a long way. Karma is another principle I believe in. Because someone continually tries to hurt you either physically or psychologically that their toxic energy will come back to them.

I’m not a doormat however if you come for me or my family I don’t hesitate to call you out. I don’t stand for bad behavior or criminality.

I believe that if you behave badly towards others it’ll come back to you. That’s what karma is. I believe that in all people except for those who have gone over to the dark side, that there’s some good in them. That good is what I believe in.

My principles are simple & much like a slogan from my favorite clothing brand, do good, feel good.

What principles guide you through the universe?

When was the first time you really felt like a grown up (if ever)?

7 years ago we had just moved to Norway but my husband had to go back to sell our house & pack up our belongings.

I was left by myself for 4 months, where I had to pay the rent & manage my own money. It was very stressful in the beginning.

I also had full responsibility for the four legged creature. Who immediately began stress puking at night after my husband left.

The sun had just returned up North so that was a plus. But being on my own was hard. I’d go visit my grandmother whenever I could. I also made friends with her friends & they began checking in on me. That made loneliness much easier to bear.

I’m proud of myself as I managed to do it & it really made me feel like a grown up for the first time in my life.

What was the hardest personal goal you’ve set for yourself?

For me growing up in a turbulent & unsafe house made me drawn to bad men. Narcissists, emotional abusers & of course control freaks.

I swore at the end of my 20’s that I’d stop dating men that hurt me emotionally & physically. The hardest part was Not dating at all.

I remember feeling really lonely around my 30’s because the only men I trusted were the ones I was friends with & had no sexual component with. I trusted my local barista more than some random in the café.

Choosing for the first time myself. It was hard but worth it as my now husband is also my best friend. He’s kind & patient & sweet. Yes, we have disagreements but we solve them together. The hardest goal I set for myself was in my late 20’s. Now, I’m in a boundary respecting relationship where we both have say.